Bashing by wives has men calling for help-TOI 7 Nov 2011
PANCHKULA: Women emancipation seems to have assumed a new dimension in this age of growing role-reversal.
The telephone at the district child and woman welfare council, installed recently to entertain calls of women, who are victims of domestic violence, has been ringing quite regularly, but most of the callers are men, who are literally crying for help. One ‘victim’ has even submitted a video footage of him getting thrashed by his wife.
In the past two weeks, officials manning the phone helpline, have been approached by at least 10 males, who claimed they were being beaten by their wives for reasons as frivolous as failing to drop or pick up kids on time from school. Apparently, the anger is vented by the women if their spouses do not earn as much as their friends’ husbands and also if they see them sporting more jewellery.
Perhaps, sensing that nobody would believe him, a youth from Raipurrani even recorded, with the help of a CCTV camera, an incident of his wife battering him.
“Just a day ago, we received a call from a man, who was literally crying and said that his wife daily thrashes him and even threatens him with dire consequences if he dares to tell anyone about it. He also said that she intimidates him by saying that she would file a dowry case in court against him,” said Virender Singh, an official of the council. He added, “The man also said that due to this problem, for the past few months, he is mentally disturbed. We asked him to complain to the cops but he said that even the police would support her case.”
Singh added, “Most of the calls which we receive are from men only. The most surprising thing is that problems of men sound graver than those of women. Usually while talking and explaining their plight, married women sound tense whereas married men break down. Initially, we used to be taken aback and did not know how to react, however, now we tell them to approach the police or court which they usually avoid.”