Age no bar, for misusing Domestic Violence Act-TOI Pune Mirror
Men’s Rights Association met with senior citizens and middle-aged men, who claim daughter-in-laws and second wives harass them.
Men’s Rights Association (MRA), an NGO that helps aggrieved men, held a meeting for senior citizens at Sambhaji Park on Sunday, to discuss grievances. MRA claims the harassment of men by women transcends age and marital status. MRA, which is a year-old, is a strong critic of the misuse of the Domestic Violence Act (DVA).
MRA believes many senior citizens are made to run from pillar to post. A majority of these cases, they claim, are related to second marriages or involve a daughter-in-law with an eye on her in-law’s property.
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Makarand Ambekar (70), a Pimpri resident, said, “I approached the MRA as my daughter-in-law, the sister of a city-based film director, implicated me, my son and my wife. She claims we are harassing her mentally, but we have never stayed together. My son lived on Sinhagad Road, while we stay in Pimpri.
Now, she is demanding a share of our property, saying our grandson will inherit it. She used her influence to put us in jail. The matter is still pending in the family court and my son is struggling for justice.”
Ambegaon resident Sanjay Bendre (57), a government employee, tells his story. After the death of his first wife, he married a widow in 2004. Both had 7-year-old sons, but she began torturing her stepson as he did better than her child in school. Bendre said, “My second wife inflicted burns on my son.
When I protested, she threw me and my 91-yr-old father out of the house. She assaulted me in front of our neighbours. She also refused to return 25 tolas gold and two kgs of silver jewellery, purchased by my first wife.
She threatened to commit suicide and implicate me and filed false cases against me when I asked her to return the jewellery. The family court approved our divorce, but did not order the return of the jewellery. I am now seeking justice from the HC.”
Rajendra Chavan (55), an MSEDCL employee also had a horror story. Chavan claims he was married in 1994, but his wife deserted him as she did not like his small house in Guruwar Peth. She divorced him, but when he tried to remarry, she spread rumours that he was not a “complete” man.
He could not remarry because of the rumour, but finally did at a mass-marriage ceremony in Hubli. His second wife allegedly concealed the fact that she could not conceive and blamed it on a hormonal problem. Chavan says, “When I asked her to see a doctor, she avoided it. When I insisted, she did, but didn’t show me reports. I was shocked to learn the truth.
The police refused to file a case of cheating. Meanwhile, my wife dragged me to court. When I tried to prove my case, she used influence and forced seven lawyers not to represent me. My file containing case documents was also misplaced. I have been forced to pay her an allowance since 2004.”
MRA is the brainchild of Atit Rajpara, a software engineer. He says, “It’s a welcome sign that, brushing aside the fear of defamation, senior citizens and middle-aged men contact us.”