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‘Harassed’ hubbies to meet for men’s rights- DNA

August 16, 2013 Leave a comment

Come August 16, Nagpur will be teeming with activists supporting the rights of disgruntled men from across the country. The three-day conference will tackle and debate the government’s draft bill, which contains an amendment in the Marriage Laws Bill.

The national meet, organised by the Nagpur chapter of the Save Indian Family Foundation, will be held at Pench Resorts and is the fifth such national meet after successes in Goa, Shimla, Yercaud and Kolkata in previous years.

The activists will, in particular, be discussing the draft bill on the Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage Law, which states that if a wife walks out a marriage within six months, she will be entitled to monthly spousal support. Apart from this, she will also be rewarded a portion of the any property the husband may have acquired before marriage, as well as part of his inheritable property, if any.

This bill has sent a panic wave among many young, high-earning men, who have termed the bill as extremely anti-male and anti-marriage.

The conference will also discuss the men’s rights movement and the steps necessary to be taken to increase awareness in this regard, especially to highlight the increasing suicide rate among men, and in particular, among married men.

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Have Law Makers Failed to SAVE FAMILY??????

October 26, 2012 Leave a comment

FAMILY Court lawyers and counselors who see the break-up of every kind of human relationship, say that relationships between human beings are a complex phenomenon beyond the ken of logic. Not surprisingly, even the best legal minds in the country have been able to barely give a meaning to the word ‘family’, but no legal status. “The family, believe it or not, has no legal persona,” says the energetic Supreme Court Lawyer Mr. Mahesh Tiwari , who is Legal Advisor of Save Family Foundation , Delhi( SFF), an Foundation which works to save the family as a social institution and associate with the movement “Save Indian Family ( SIF)”,

“Thus, the inherent conflict between the individual rights of a member and the collective rights of the family is apparent in every litigation in the Family Court.

Strangely, though a major objective of the Family Court Act of 1984 is the preservation of the family as the foundation of society, it offers relief in every case by determining the rights and liabilities of individuals in biased way towards wives only and treated the Husband as a Free ATM machine only, rather than of the family.

The gray areas between the rights of the individuals and the welfare of the family become the battleground for concerned parties, due to one sided biased law like 498A,DV act , Child custody LAW, maintenance and alimony LAW under IPC125, who feel that matrimonial laws should be amended to suit right women or men, instead of pitting the two sexes against one another.

“The Family Court is a theater of unimaginable conflicts. The usual issues behind these conflicts are: feminists vs. anti-feminists; individuals vs. society and the legal system vs. the right to privacy of an individual. The Family Court Act of 1984 was passed by the Central Government because of the pressure built up by various non-governmental organizations, which unanimously felt that matrimonial and family law cases were suffering from long delays in the civil courts. Special courts were required for quick disposal of such cases so that the parties to a divorce or separation could go on with their lives and redesign their destinies. The Act encouraged and empowered various state governments to set up Family Courts in all cities with a population of over one million people.

“The first state to set up a Family Court was Rajasthan. Maharashtra followed in 1989. Today, Family Courts function in nearly 60 cities of India. Their objectives, according to the Act, include the preservation of the family as an institution, speedy disposal of cases and a re-conciliatory approach while handling human relationships. Hence, the Court is obliged to provide the services of counselors for couples seeking a separation of divorce.” But the biased criminal Act like 498A, DV act and IPC 125 totally destroyed the basic aim of the family court’s function.

The work of the Family Court invariably centers on the rights of a wife only, irrespective she is right or wrong. This is assumption that marriage or its break-up seriously affects her status and property rights, as their own parents also refuse them to give any property right in spite of the well settle LAW of this country.

Factors such as religion, community, custom, tradition or family views determine or affect her rights. Though a court or law itself can determine the legal view, it is very difficult — almost impossible — to change the mindset of people who have lived according to the tenets of a conception that a women can never lie or never break the family for her selfish motive, which is totally wrong in 21 st century.

For example, according to the 1974 Maintenance Laws, Rs 500 per month was the standard allowance for a divorced or separated wife. Rs 750 per month was allotted to each child. In 2000, this was changed to Rs 1,500 per month and in 2002, the upper limit of maintenance was totally removed. Result, money and property matters are so fluid and amenable manipulation in the court, that many wives, well educated and earning, prefers to show in the court they are not working, in spite of capable to do so.

Most of the divorce cases, which come to Family Courts, are based on three major reasons: Cruelty, desertion for two years or more and adultery. Of these, adultery is extremely difficult to prove. Cruelty, too, has to have a physical manifestation to be admissible as evidence in court.

Therefore, desertion remains the most common cause apart from mutual consent, where the two parties have an agreement on the terms and conditions of their separation.

But LAW like 498A , DV act and IPC 125 biased towards wives , change the whole equation and result a long litigation for both.

Social researchers regret however, that though Family Courts have been in existence for over a decade, there are no records, statistics of figures, which can point in the direction of the future of the family as the basic unit of society. Several NGOs continue to fight for the creation of a fact-and-figures bank, which could be a barometer of the health of the family in Indian society. They believe that family courts were created in the first place because of their relentless efforts, but failed to make any study about the Husband’s health of conditions, result we witness more and more married men are ending their life, in 2011 as per Crime bure, 62000 more men had end their life compared to 30000 married women.

“There are media reports that the number of divorces in Indian cities — specially in Mumbai and Delhi — is increasing by leaps and bounds,” but some famous women activists are arguing that it is the women’s right and women empowerment, result child’s are force to live under a “Father less Society” and the husband treated as a “Free ATM machine” only.

However, women wanting a larger slice of life today are a major reason for marital break-ups. They are aware of their rights and tolerate less injustice.Parents of women also support the break-up when they see the benefit they will get in terms of money and sympathy form the society.

Further, there is hardly any stigma attached to the word divorce today. We had witness, a lot of women remarried not twice , even trice also , as a example take case of Noida ,telecasted in Star News , a women married 3 times in 3 years span and fighting the third divorce case . This is not a mare exceptional case , like that a number of cases are going on in the court.

Even elders believe in the right of a woman to have a worthwhile life rather than rot in a no-win relationship. More and more families show that even one caring person can do the job of rearing a balanced, healthy child. The definition of a family is changing fast.

“Also, marriages now break at any age. People decide to separate after a few months of marriage or when they are older. And more women seek counseling or dissolution of a marriage because there are more support systems available to them rather than the husband alone. Women can choose to experience motherhood through adoption (Sushmita Sen) or through relationships with their beloveds without marriage (Neena Gupta, Sanjana Kapoor and many others). In the foreseeable future, they may become mothers through assisted reproductive technologies too.”

It is natural that marriages and love relationships in celebrity-land are under more stress than others. Here, one partner may be successful beyond imagination and the other may be required to play the second-fiddle eternally.

A husband may be far more successful or popular and hi-profile compared to the wife or lover. The family or a wife may not ‘approve’ of the attitude of a husband who sets goals for himself and follows them single-minded. In most hyped-up industries, celebrities work constantly with equally attractive members of the opposite sex. Attractions happen and marital or loyalty vows are broken more easily than is common. Celebrity break-ups become worse when they attract publicity, leaving no room for privacy. Success, the need to hang on at the top and money — as well as personal grooming and fitness — are top priorities in most celebrity lives today. There is no time or patience of the spouse, children or other relatives.

As one prominent actress says, “People don’t change. Circumstances change and force the person to go with the tide of time.”

So at the end the question remained unanswered Are LAW Maker failed to save family?

A men established himself as Best Son , great Brother, but why he had termed as Criminal when it comes to as a role of Husband, why? Does to be a best son or great Brother is crime in India for a man?

If the answer is No, are they ready to review the whole marriage related LAW towards “Save family” or it is their hidden agenda to convert this country to a “Father less society” by killing the institution of marriage in India?

Join SIF Team to Stop this legal terrorism of India and demand to replace the word Husband/wife to Spouse to all marriage related LAW or policy like all over world follow instead of making assumption that all wives born in Raja Harish Chandra family ( never lie) and all husbands born in Criminal family.

(Crime Is Crime. Punishment should be irrespective of gender, religion and caste. Let us be honest and fight for truth)

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Now, a bill to safeguard men to be discussed in Rajya Sabha

October 12, 2012 2 comments

The upcoming winter session of the Parliament will see an interesting proposal by men’s rights organisation coming up for discussion. The Saving Men from Intimate Terror Act 2012, or SMITA in short, has been drafted to protect men and boys from domestic violence from their spouse, girlfriends and parents.

A joint initiative by the Indian Social Awareness and Activism Forum (INSAAF) and Confidare Research, this act will be petitioned in the Rajya Sabha.

Arnab Ganguly of INSAAF, and Virag Dhulia, head of Gender Studies, Confidare Research, say they have identified various forms of violence/abuse faced by men and boys like physical abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, legal abuse, economic abuse, sexual abuse and they see that there no law in India [ Images ] that specifically caters to the needs and issues of men or one that is drafted from an understanding of men’s problems.

“Every year more 6,2000 married men are committing suicide in the country. Often we hear news of men committing suicide after the police forces them to stay with their abusive wives, else the police threaten them with arrest. There is no social acceptance of a harassed and victimised man. Often when men share their problems, they are ridiculed and belittled by society. Hence society and the government need to understand this, and for it this law is required,” they add.

INSAAF and Confidate Research have come across various forms of abuse against men by the opposite sex and have classified them accordingly:

Physical abuse: Husbands and male partners have presented serious evidence of being scratched, punched, bit, things thrown at them by their female partners apart from attacks with deadly instruments. In the absence of a legal system to protect men from physical violence, these victims get little or no medical care or attention and are even unable to speak of their physical wounds due to the unavailability of a law to protect them from abuse.

Emotional abuse: Demands to forcefully separate the husband from his parents and family, demand for separate residence, threat of police action and legal recourse if the wife’s demands are not met, were some of the commonly seen tactics of emotional abuse. Also, constant non-cooperation of the wife or the female partner in the smooth running of a family was another commonly seen tactic which was used to abuse husbands in case of non-fulfillment of the demands of the wife.

Verbal abuse: Calling husbands and male partners derogatory names with an intent to demean and hurt. Names like “impotent”, “spineless”, “hijra (eunuch)” have most commonly come up and were verbal abuses that were levelled against husbands and male partners with an intent to cause pain and ignominy.

Legal abuse: The acts of misusing the state machinery by the wife or female partner for coercing the husband or the male partner to abide by their demands. Common among these are the misuse of IPC 498a , DV act 2005, rape/molestation laws, denying child custody on event of separation and maintenance laws.

Economic abuse: Constant irrational demands on the husband for purchase of jewellery, real estate, expensive clothing, automobiles, restaurant hospitality, feminine beauty products and demands for payments to family members of the wife’s family were also noted.When the husband or the male partner was unable to meet the financial demands of the female partner, they were subjected to further emotional and physical abuse.

Sexual abuse: Using consensual physical relations to coerce a man for either financial payments and/or forced marriage, threatening to file cases of rape and molestation after consensual physical relations, forcing men to start families against their will and denying physical relation in a matrimonial relation if irrational and unreasonable demands are not fulfilled were some examples.

INSAAF’s study has also has taken into account the scale and propensity of abuse of the husbands and males partners in India and compared that to worldwide abuse numbers. “We have concluded that in more than 50 per cent of cases wives and females also initiated fights which led to attacks on their male partners,” Dhulia says.

He adds that they are hopeful that some action will be taken after the Rajya Sabha discusses this issue. “In August we met with at least 40 members of Parliament who echoed our concerns and felt the need of such an Act.”

The draft bill was sent as a petition to the Rajya Sabha by the NGOs, following which an acknowledgement was sent to the petitioners, paving the way for a discussion on it in the Upper House.

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Why INDIAN men suffer?

September 21, 2012 Leave a comment

More often than not this question has perturbed my mind and ever since I got involved in men’s rights activism, fighting for men’s rights, creating awareness about men’s issues and problems and interacted with abused and victimized men, my understanding of the answer to the above question has improved tremendously and today I am going to write about the same in this article.

Before we delve into the reasons as to why men suffer, it is pertinent to talk about “How Men Suffer?

It is important to understand how men suffer because the current social understanding about suffering of men is largely undercover. In fact, even after 8 years since the establishment of the men’s rights movement in India and after umpteen presences in the media, by and large, the society is still oblivious to the problems that are faced by men. Even, if sometimes people are aware that the man is suffering, they have nothing to offer to the man. And this is again a reflection of poor understanding of the male psyche and male emotions.

Some of the common forms of abuse of men are,

  1. Forced to earn manhood: Boys are taught to be ruthless and cruel to other men, view them as competitors but have a soft corner for women. Even our social constructs are so designed that a man must earn his manhood while a woman gets her womanhood by default because of her gender. That’s the reason we see dialogues like “Respect me because I am a woman”, “You are not a man if…….”, “You are not a man unless you……”, “Be a man”, “Take it like a man” etc.
  2. Conditioned to be inferior: Boys are socially conditioned to believe that in general the male gender is inferior to women and that a man’s life is incomplete without a woman. They are conditioned to believe that it is OK to demean their own gender; in fact they are made to feel proud about that.
  3. Made to suppress: Boys are encouraged to suppress their emotions/pains/sufferings and as they grow up, the language that takes shape in their minds is – “It is unmanly for me to complain”.
  4. Economic abuse: This is the most common form of abuse that men are subjected to. It’s been a social tradition to expect men to earn money through hard-work and then others should enjoy it. In fact, men who spend their own hard money for themselves are ridiculed and those who spend it for their family are hailed even though the family is abusive towards the man. Every new anti-male law that is proposed is based on the premise that it is the right of the woman on the man’s money.
  5. Emotional abuse: Men face a lot of emotional abuse which often goes unnoticed because of the high expectations from the society and the emotional suppression that they face since childhood.
  6. Abuse in Marriages: Marriages are tumultuous for men. Every year close to double the number of men commit suicides due to abusive and married men top the list of suicides.
  7. Legal Abuse: The legal system is highly anti-male. There are more than 15 anti-male, inhuman and unconstitutional gender biased laws which openly flout principles of natural justice and many more are coming in pipeline. Also, the legal system is immune and insensitive to the abuse of a man who is victimized and has nothing more than lip service to offer to them.
  8. Social Abuse: Men face social bias. All a man needs to invoke hatred against him is to have a woman complain against him and it does not matter how much bizarre, absurd or illogical the allegations are; social hatred against men (misandry) will ensure that the life of the man is ruined. And such deep is the misandry that even if the man comes out clean; there is no will in the society to punish the liar woman so as to deter other women from repeating the same offense. In fact, abuse of men by society is like a social service.
  9. Workplace Bias: Men face bias at workplace as well. Mostly men find it very difficult to get promoted and need to struggle a lot for the same. Most companies hire more women under initiatives like “Diversity” and mostly even if men are as competent as women, they lose out on the job due to such initiatives.
  10. Cultural Bias: Abuse of men is not a new fashion; it’s a chronic social disease. Men have always been forced to play violent roles by cultures and societies by participating in wars, taking risks, losing their life and limbs and donning the role of a protector. And this very role of protector goes against men which takes away the right from them to fight for their own selves.

This is just a tip of the iceberg about the various problems which men have been suffering from and are either unaddressed or unrecognized. However, let us now see as to why men suffer so much?

Men suffer because of the following reasons:

  1. They don’t share their problems: Men feel it is unmanly for them to share their problems and fearing social backlash and ridicule, they suffer silently.
  2. They share their successes more often than their failures: Men are made to feel unmanly when they share their failures with dialogues such as “Dude, you could have handled this much”. Due to this reason and the first one, the problems of the male world rarely surface. All that surfaces is their successes all over which makes the society feel as if it is OK to snatch from men. But, as it is said, “Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence”, same is with the problems and struggles faced by a man. Merely because men are silent, does not mean they are good to go. It’s just that they are resilient enough to deal with the abuse heaped upon them.
  3. The Protector Role of men: Even if they are being attacked from all sides they won’t forego their “protector” role. Even after getting abused by the very society, men find in themselves a fetish to protect culture, protect society, protect country and such high and lofty objectives do not allow them to take up cudgels against the injustice they themselves are being subjected to.
  4. Logic of Men: Men are extremely logical and analytical in their approach and thus often they fail to comprehend emotional turbulences and end up getting bruised emotionally. Men have great respect for systems, hierarchies, rules and laws. That is the reason, they somehow think that anti-male laws are fine and they would never be trapped if they don’t do anything wrong and even if that happens, they would use logic to prove their innocence.
  5. Internal Misandry: This is the biggest reason why men suffer. Internally men hate each other and have a lot of disrespect for each other. They judge each other a lot and are too quick and active in jumping into action to punish a man against whom a woman complains. That is the reason, even after being victimized, most men do not challenge anti-male social attitudes and anti-male laws because internally they somehow feel, these laws are justified, it’s just that, for them, the anti-male laws should not be “misused”.

The solution to end the suffering of men is very simple. It just depends on certain choices that men need to make.

  1. Men must stop disrespecting and hating other men.
  2. Men must challenge all such social constructs which force them to earn manhood or suffer abuse because it is considered unmanly to raise voice against it.
  3. Men must not view other men as competitors in order to get sex.
  4. Men must challenge all forms of anti-male attitudes, laws and media content.
  5. Men must understand the importance of “men’s rights”.

Men’s suffering will end if they make the above choices and choice to make these choices also belies with them.



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MID-DAY—–Men’s rights activists to protest against proposed divorce clause

August 14, 2012 Leave a comment

Men’s Rights Association (MRA), an NGO working to address various issues faced by men, will be protesting at Jantar Mantar in New Delhi on August 18 against the proposed irretrievable breakdown of marriage clause.


The clause is set to be a part of the Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill 2010 soon. “It is true that we as MRA are using the same venue at Jantar Mantar where Anna Hazare had held his agitation. We are sure that our agitation will receive a good response, just like Hazare’s. We expect at least 40 NGOs in the country to join us in the cause of fighting for men’s rights and removal of the irretrievable breakdown of marriage clause from the Marriage Law Bill,” MRA, founder president Atit Rajpara said.

Kedar Ambekarm, an MRA member, said under this clause, a man seeking divorce from his wife would be forced to do away with half of his property. “It (clause) only talks about a wife’s rights, but has no consideration for the man, his mother, sister and all those dependent on him,” Ambekarm said. He said a man would have no right to oppose a divorce filed by his wife under this clause. However, a woman can oppose the divorce filed by her husband.

Happy B’day: MRA founder president Atit Rajpara cuts a cake to mark the NGO’s first anniversary yesterday. Pic/Vivek Sabnis

Like their agitation at Jantar Mantar, the MRA activists have planned to hold a similar rally in London in front of the Indian Embassy on August 18. “We expect over 50 Indians to join us in our demand for removal of the unjust clause in the Marriage Act Bill 2010,” Dinesh Khanna, an NRI who will be a part of the protest in London, said.

Mangala Samant, a social activist and a scholar on women’s issue, said she had studied the Marriage Act and is against the views expressed by the MRA members about the new clause.  “I agree that the law is in favour of women because there is no equality in our society. Men can’t do the same a woman or wife can. Before opposing the new clause in the Marriage Act Bill, these men should first study our uneven social condition,” Samant said.

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Why not to replace the word Husband/wife to Spouse in proposed Marriage Amendment Bill????????????????

सावधान सावधान सावधान !!!!!!!!!!!!! भारतीय पुरुषांनो सावधान……लग्न करताय मंग ५०% मालमत्ता आपल्या होणार्या बायकोच्या नावावर करा.

Are you planning to marry Indian Girl???????????
It is easy to get married (’Legal Trap’) in India if Boy is with handsome earning and have credible wealth.

“According to the Cabinet Note, while a wife can oppose a husband’s plea for a divorce under the new “irretrievable breakdown of marriage” clause, the husband will have no such rights to oppose if the wife moves court on the same grounds.”

The word husband/wife must be replaced by the word Spouse, otherwise
it will lead a total Extrotion business of your hard earned
money/property and as the more awareness will come, maximum men will
stop saving and will spend their earling, result more and more
crime/fraud/stress in society and yes a huge father less child society on the way, which today some male haters do not understand , but will value the contrubution of husabnds family the day they will take oath to die as debit man than credit man. We do not understand why so called educated and libiral Women and LAW makers afrid to make law on the Principal with the word “Spouse”, both get euall responsibility and Libility.

PRESS RELEASE: Strongly condemning the upcoming Marriage Laws
(amendment) Bill by Fight for Justice.


Confidare Research is the education and research wing of Confidare
Consultancy that specializes in dealing with problems of men.
Confidare Research strongly condemn the upcoming “Marriage Laws
(Amendment) Bill” that was supposed to be tabled today before the

This bill is a further evidence of the growing misandry (male hatred)
in the society and how the society treats men as disposable entities.
Even in this modern age when we talk of Gender Equality, the
stereotypical patriarchal notion that the financial responsibility of
a family should lay on a husband still prevails in the society, and
this pervert social mindset is the root cause of abuse of men,
especially husbands in a marriage.

In such a situation, where men are already burdened with so much of
load, another law which makes divorce extremely costly for them is
thoroughly unwelcome.

Highlights of the law:

This law recognizes “Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage” as a ground
for divorce.
While the law empowers the wife to oppose the divorce at any point of
time if the husband has filed for divorce, it restrains the husband
from doing so when the wife has filed for the same.
This law also contains a clause by which courts will be empowered to
snatch away half the property of husband and give it away to wife.
This law only talks about women’s rights and has no considerations
whatsoever for men.

Brief Background:

Due to demand from various quarters, this ground for divorce was
introduced by the Govt. of India by way of the Marriage Laws
(Amendment) Bill, 2010 which sought to amend the Hindu Marriage Act
and the Special Marriage Act. However, the bill contained clauses that
facilitated financial extortion of men.

The bill read that courts would have power not to grant the divorce
unless the wife was paid adequate amount of money under the cute name
of “Financial Security of Woman”.

And the bill also mentioned about special powers being given only to
wives to oppose the divorce if the wife was unhappy with the money she
received from the husband.

Such clauses being outright anti-male and gender-biased in nature were
vehemently opposed by various men’s rights activists and
organizations, who even deposed in front of the Standing Committee on
personnel, public grievances, law and justice. The panel, chaired by
Shri Santaram Naik, was presented with the objections raised by men’s
rights organizations who sought to make the bill gender-neutral and
ensure that no man faced any kind of financial hardship because of
gender-biased clauses in the bill.

Oppositions ignored:

However, the objections raised by men’s rights organizations have been
conveniently ignored by the standing committee panel, that has gone
ahead and recommended the very clauses to the Govt. of India for the
bill to be tabled, to which the men’s rights organizations has raised
objections against.

What will happen if?

Husband purchases a property just 6 months after marriage out of his
hard-earned savings earned before marriage and his marriage breaks and
he loses half of the property. In that case the husband will be
Men start fearing this law and stop buying real estate which adversely
affects the economy of the country.
Husband has dependent parents and owns a single property and if 50% of
that goes to wife post-divorce, how will the husband take care of his
old parents? Is the concept of family restricted to only husband-wife
in the Indian context?
What, if the family is a Hindu Undivided Family (HUF) owning a single
joint property? Will the wife get 50% of that? What about other
sibling’s share in it?

Confidare’s objections:

Marriages are tumultuous for men. This fact reflects in the suicide
statistics that are published year-over-year by the Union Ministry of
Home Affairs and it’s the married men who top the list of suicide.
Suicide rate of husbands’ increases 4 times the rate of wives’ and 6
times the rate they are born. Every 9 minutes a married man commits
suicide. This fact clearly proves how bad marriages turn out for men
and if divorces are also made costlier by way of such laws, this will
lead to further increase in suicides by men. Is the Government of
India trying to facilitate the suicides of men?
There is one more law in the pipeline – Matrimonial Property (Rights
of Women upon Marriage Act), 2012 – which talks about making wife the
co-owner of husband’s properties right at the time of marriage; then,
why this law? Why is the Government hell bent on making redundant
anti-male laws and convert marriage into an extortion industry
thriving on men?

In a democratic law making process, objections raised by a particular
group or individual cannot be ignored without any proper
justification. The panel has failed to give any just and proper reason
as to why the objections raised should not be considered.
As per Dowry Prohibition Act, any demand of cash/kind in relation to
marriage is “Dowry”. Is not this law legalizing dowry to be paid to
wife from husband under the cute name of “Financial Security of Wife”?
Right to Equality is a fundamental right guaranteed by the
Constitution of India and cannot be disrespected under any
circumstances. Current bill thoroughly violates it, as far as men are

Feminists are claiming that nearly 80% of women do not have a place to
live post-divorce. This is completely false because no such study has
ever been conducted. India does not have any standard data collected
as to how many divorces are happening, of those how many own a house
and how many do not, how many are nuclear, joint and HUF families.
Without any such data in place, any claims made are just airy claims
without any data. Formulating a law on airy data is dangerous.
Confidare’s demands:

Marriages and Divorces should not be made a property-transfer-bureau.
If property division is to be done then wife’s share in her ancestral
property must also be considered and then division must be done.
Duration of marriage must be a crucial factor of consideration. The
difference between a 2 month marriage and a 20 year marriage must be
clearly understood.

Property division must take into account contributions made by both
the spouses and also the fact that the property was acquired from
wealth earned post marriage and not from previous savings.
Any and all outstanding financial liabilities on the property like
loan for property, loan against property, mortgage etc. must also be
equally divided and wife must be made to be equally paid for it. If
she is not working then she should get her share from her ancestral

Both the partners should have equal and unbridled right to oppose
divorce and there should be no gender-bias in this.
There should not be any power wrested with the courts to decide upon
property transfer or stalling of proceedings as the Indian judiciary
is highly incompetent and has not shown positive trends favoring men
when it comes to disposing cases. The Indian judiciary is highly
anti-male and does not consider twice before ordering a man to either
“sell his kidney” or “beg, borrow or steal” just to pay maintenance to
his estranged wife. What is the guarantee that the same judiciary will
make judicious decisions when it comes to this law?

Institute a National Commission for Men, that can systematically
collect issues, concerns and problems of men, study them and recommend
to the Govt. about measures to be taken to address those problems.
If the Govt. of India does not take these considerations seriously
then we have only one message for the hardworking Indian men, who
think putting self before others, is a social norm –

Your hard earned property does not belong to you.

P.S. Long run effect as the more and more cases will come out :

“Also this bill will have a disastrous effect on the marriageability
of non-working or low income men/women – as all women/men would like
to marry high income men/women now. Will the govt. take responsibility
to get these low-income or no-income men/women marrage? How is this
bill useful when it helps high income men/women while at the same time
makes the low-income men/women un-marriageable? This bill infact is
contrary to women’s and men’s welfare”

So,what to do ?

1. This is nothing but legal terrorism and to stop that the First
think to make more and more awareness. So, highlight the danger to all
LAW makers MP, Society and Friends. Always demand as per constitution
every one is equal in front of law , so the word men/women must be
replaced by person and husband/wife must be replaced by spouse.
2. Those are in LAW filed must start collected the LAW of other
country of the world and be ready to fight in Supreme court. No
country have such biased law in place.
3. Before marriage must engage a Lawyers.
4. Book a low cost Home in some Village area , so that in old age you
can have a place to live.
5. The moment you feel any smell of any problem without any second
thought dispose-off all your movable or immovable assets .
6. Minimum Saving after marriage , enjoy the life instead of work like
donkey and one day die in Heart attack and left huge assets.
7.Come out from all the emotion , today marriage is no longer a
emotional bond, all this male haters LAW makers make the marriage a
emotionless simple Business deal and a easy money earning business for
wrong people.

Warning to all Male Haters :

To grab the Husbands money/property you have made several law start
from DP3, 498A, DV act, CRPC125, Section 24 and now this new HMA act,
with the Principal all wives born in Raja Harish Chandra Family ,
never lie and all Husbands born in Criminal Family.

All the law the basic motive is how to grab the money and property
from Husbands family with the logic women had suffered so long, so now
it is turn to men to suffer.

But forget two wrong can’t make a right think. If women is suffering
that is not due to husbands family , it is due to the girls at their
own home had not given equal right and responsibility give to a boy,
instead of correcting the same started putting all burden/blame to
husbands family .

Do not forget more then 90% women who have a home in this country ,
they got from their husbands family , not from their own family,
correct that first or the day the is not too far when we will be
witness when a man will die, the bank will come and take over all his
assets , which we witness in western country .

The day Indian Husbands will learn to live a life as Debit man than
credit man and stop making any saving in property or in other assets ,
then only you all will realize the real contribution of Indian
husbands for this society.

Do not take Indian husbands family in ride and stop promotion of Legal
Extortion of their hard earned money/property, make the LAW gender
neutral the word husband/wife must be replaced by the word spouse and
the share should be equal both liability and claim in assets.

Courtesy: Swarup Sarkar, Delhi

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Open challenge To Mr. Amir Khan-(if you had taken a drop of Honest Mothers Milk),

June 21, 2012 3 comments

“Ask those women’s husbands who claim had faced domestic violence, are
their Husbands had not faced domestic violence?”

I had already challenged him the study he presented and lie to nation,
but he prefers to keep silence and hiding , if he had any honesty to
reply the simply question , that 50% women face physical violence by
their husbands ,how he can make such lie, without full read of
“National Health Survey Report” and scripted the show in the name of
“Satyam Jayta”.

Also surprise, he advocate the hate to each other by endorsing a wife
should “Slap” to husband and the same is not crime, it will be termed
as Self-defense, so tomorrow all women should kill the husbands as
self defense, which even any Hard core Male hater Feminist also do not
endorse that to stop violence , reverse violence to be Promoted.

As per the study the question is one sided with consideration whatever
the women said to be termed as true, are they born in raja Harish
chandra family?

Open challenge to: Mr. Amir Kahn, as per me you are the big liar, if
you do have answer, come out open and make study with both gender.

I ashamed for people like you who promote the hate speech in open
television, at least Rakhi swahant show was is far far better than you
at least she had guts to show the both partners real face to public.

Disclose the Study to whom they asked question and then ask the same
question to their husbands, then publish the truth.
We had already done the same and expose the 70% data earlier by UN was
false and fabricated. If they have at least 0.0001% honesty and
transparence, let make the study by engaging both partner Husbands and
wife and then show the result, all over the world all study shows the
violence is not a gender issue, women are as violent as men , but in
India the violence done by women termed as brave work and the crime
done by them got Scot free, result all the husbands killers very year
more than 56K as per crime bure data as moving freely in this country
and making such one sided , biased scripted view on nation TV and
promoting the hate speech and result more and more Domestic violence .

Make the law gender neutral then compare who get convicted more men or
women, then only some direction or solution can be think, otherwise,
the gender war and hate to each other they promoting is nothing but to
create more and more family disputes and create huge father less child

In India as per Crime Bure Report Every 9mins one Age old Mothers
Loosing their Married Son, but Mr. Amir Khan can’t see those mothers
pain or suffering and result they get abused every day as they can’t
give him Crs of ruppes for doing scripted show in the name of Satyam
Jayata, which reconfirms beyond reasonable drought , he had no Love ,
respect or any concern for those Mothers of India.

Now read the below : The real study :

India’s New “Domestic Violence Act” – A Study Report

One of the most pervasive myths of our society is that domestic
violence is something men do to women. Solid scientific research
reveals that domestic violence is something women do to men more
frequently than men do to women.

While it is true that men account for most violence outside the home,
women instigate most domestic violence and they injure men more
frequently and more severely.

The Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire,
under grants from the National Institute of Mental Health, recently
finished the last of three national studies on domestic violence. The
first two studies revealed results similar to the latest study. Anyone
who would like a copy of it may order it from the University of New
Hampshire (ask for Document V55). The data tape and documentation of
the 1975 and 1985 studies are available from the Interuniversity
Consortium For Political and Social Research at the University of
Michingan. Original data is also available on CD-ROM from
Sociometrics, Inc. in Palo Alto, CA.

The average results in the ‘severe assault’ category are reported below:

* Wives report they have been severely assaulted by husband 22 per 1000

* Wives report they have severely assaulted husband 59 per 1000

* Husbands report they have been severely assaulted by wives 32 per 1000

* Husbands report they have severely assaulted wives 18 per 1000

* Husbands & wives both report wife has been assaulted 20 per 1000

* Husbands & wives both report husband has been assaulted 44 per 1000

There are dozens of other studies that reveal similar findings. For instance:

Indian Husbands End thier life:It Was A Crime That I Was Born As Man ?

Crime Bure data,
In the Year 2005, the Crime Against Men, More than Twenty-two Lacks
sixty Four Thousands ( 92.88%) vs One Lack fifty-five thousands
against women( 6.38%)?
Comp. Sue Moto By Police(FIR Registered): 24,37,973/-
Crime Against Women : 1,55,553/-
Crime against Child : 17,975/-
Crime against Men : 22 ,64 , 445/-
In the Year 2005 the Crime Against Men, More than Twenty-two Lacks
sixty Four Thousands vs One Lack fifty-five thousands against women?

% Wise All India Crime Against Men, Woemn and Child as Under :
Crime Against Women : 6.38%
Crime Against Child : 0.73%
Crime Against Men : 92.88%
We wonder Whose life is in More Danger in India : Men or Women?
Crime Bure data 2005 : Married Men Sucide : 52k vs Married Women
Sucide 28K.Still there is no LAW to Protect Men why?
2006 Crime Bure Data : Married Men Sucide:55452 vs. Married Women Sucide:29869.
2007 Crime Bure Data : Married Men Sucide:57593 vs. Married Women Sucide:30064.
Will Our LAW Maker change the LAW 304B( dowry death) to 304C( Sowry
Death) and 498A ( harrasement to wife) to 498B ( Sowry harrasement by
wife) ?
Where Mr. Amir Khan gone wrong and hide the fact intentionally to fool
the people:

Dubious one sided National Family Health Survey 3 (NFHS- 3) – The
NFHS- 3 relied on the below strategies to tilt numbers in their favor.
a. Make evidence-free claims:- This is the most common way the truth
is distorted. Perhaps the most common example is, “Men are
overwhelmingly the perpetrators of domestic violence,” an assertion
routinely made without evidence or proof.
b. Use definitional ruses (increasing the Ambit of Domestic
Violence):- Some persons use studies on verbal disagreements and
arguments to claim the study results are indicative of physical
violence. In India Domestic Violence ambit has been expanded so wide
that it encompasses physical, mental, emotional, physiological
violence and data is gathered using all these factors consecutively a
man may be convicted of DV even he and his wife live in different
c. Collect information only on male-on-female violence:- This is a
commonly-employed strategy. For example, the World Health Organization
did an international survey on domestic violence, but neglected to
interview men or to inquire about female-initiated aggression.
NHFS-3 concluded that nearly 37 percent married women have experienced
some form of physical or sexual violence by their husband. However
NHFS-3 also strangely concluded that “only one percent of married
women have ever initiated violence against their husband”. This
strange conclusion was drawn without even asking even a single
question to the men to measure the DV on Men by Women.
d. Distort / Ignore / Alter data on female-perpetrated violence :-
This is done by framing questions in such a way where even if the
female answer to question is yes it looks like a offence committed by
the male.
Example:- The NHFS-3 asked Women the below Question:
Have you ever hit, slapped, kicked, or done anything else to
physically hurt your (last) Husband / partner at times when he was not
already beating or physically hurting you?

The biased and heads I win tails you lose type question itself depict
the extremely poor and dubious quality of the Domestic Violence
statistics/surveys that we have done so far and also clearly show how
there is a clear effort being made to increase the domestic violence
number by hook or crook.
Now What does Peer Reviewed Global Surveys Say about Domestic Violence ?
We would now request the members of the committee to go through
another Domestic Violence Study conducted by MA Strauss. The report is
not only completely unbiased but has done the survey for over 32
countries including India. We also have references of over 250
scholarly studies show women are at least as likely as men to engage
in partner aggression and that partner violence is often mutual.
The MA Strauss report :
The report in Page 261 quotes the prevalence of bi-directionality of
severe physical violence and has the numbers for 32 countries. The
numbers for India are as below.
11.9% of Indian couples face domestic violence (slap, shove, grab, throw etc)
Column A :- 15.3 % of times only the Male is violent
Column B :- 23.0% of times only the Female is violent
Column C :- 61.5% of times both are violent

The data for India shows that in 23% of the times the Female is
violent and 61.5% of the time both are violent. Then why have we
completely ignored the data in columns B and C and only cherry picked
the data in column A to frame laws? Is this not a flaw in the law
making process itself to cherry pick statistics and then frame laws?
Some more startling statistics extracted from NHFS-3 behind which Mr.
Amir Khan relying and intentionally hide the fact and fool the people
Let us go in some more detail in NHFS-3 survey.

1) For women between age 15 to 49, NHFS-3 concluded that:

Father does 4.4% of DV on Married women.
Mother does 8.9% of DV on Married women.

Mother-in-law does 1.9% of DV on women.
Father-in-law does 0.6% of DV on women.

Strangely, our Government and Media harasses the in-laws in draconian
gender biased laws like DV and considers the parents of woman as
saints. Why is this inherent bias in framing laws and media Trial?
GHRS is yet to handle even a single case where a married woman has
filed a DV case on her mother or father, which as per NHFS-3 are
actually the top DV types on married women. This issue should be
immediately addressed.

2) In Delhi, NHFS-3 states that for ever married women who have ever
experienced spousal violence for no education, less than 8 years
education, 8-9 years education and 10 years education complete and
above are 29.2, 25.0, 17.3 and 6.3% respectively. Logically extended
for married woman with education of graduation and above, DV must be
around, only 2% as per NHFS-3 survey.

GHRS who has extensive experience on handling DV cases in Delhi have
found that in almost all cases, the DV suit have been filed by a woman
who is either a graduate or above. Or in other words, the DV Law is
being used/misused by educated women, who as per the NHFS-3,
constitute of only around 2% of the population. DV. Thus a law which
was framed for the poor/uneducated woman is being misused by the
educated woman. This issue should be immediately addressed.
We, on behalf of Save Family Foundation, Delhi, write to you to
expeditiously amend the lopsided PWDVA which was passed on the basis
of assumption and biased view along with under tremendous pressure
from a small minority of vocal and radical Groups elements of our
country, who want that each and every home a litigation should start (
Promotion of Legal Terrorism) and a Huge money had been invested for
that purpose, which is evident from their huge cry that why only
approx.10000 Domestic Violence case filed in one year, it evident that
those groups work like a Business Group who had invested huge money
with the expectation the expected Profit and Business Turnover and
for that they are desperate to ensure that there should not be any
single home to be spared where Litigation not started.
Hence our sincere request to you to take immediate action, if we
really want a Happy Family life in India and our Future Child will not
spend their Child hood under Father Less Society:
• Replace the word “Husband and Wife” with “Spouse”.
• Replace the word “Men and Women” with “Person”.
• Government should make the provision for Shelter Home and other
facility to the victim of Domestic Violence, as an interim relief.
• Establish the Family Court without Lawyers and the Domestic Disputes
to be resolved in Family Court only.
• In case found the complainant had not come to file the case in Clean
Hand and misused the LAW along with Judiciary / administrative
authority, they should be punished and the fine amount should go to
Government as revenue.
• Duplication/ multiple maintenance case to be stopped. This is total
abuse of not only the natural Justice Systems and Duplication of LAW,
this is the main motivation for filling false and fabricated case to
extort the money from Husbands family.
• There should not be any direct Compensation to the Complainant, if
the offence proved beyond reasonable dought the offender should be
Punished or fined and in such fine amount should go to the Government
Revenue only. The same should be used for the well fare of real victim
of Domestic Violence as a collectively. There should not be any
difference or discrimination of Rich or poor people and different
facility. All should be treated as same standard.
• Those cases already 498A/Divorce/CRPC125 or any other cases had been
filed and couple are not staying together and their case already
pending in court , should not be allowed to file another DV case (
This is total Violation of Indian Constitution of article 20 , where a
accused can’t be punished twice for the same offence)
• WCD (Ministry of Women and Child Development) review
committees consist of all women committees with radical and extreme
views. We seek that representatives of NGO’s like Save Family
Foundation and their associates should be included in this committee.
This is to ensure that there is balance and sanity in the review of
the law.
• Service providers in DV (Domestic Violence) LAW should be
neutral persons and made accountable for their actions to ensure
justice for the greater good of society. Restricting service providers
to women’s group’s activists and organizations is like asking the wolf
to guard the sheep. These groups are not above temptation to
extortion, blackmail and corruption. Besides, who will monitor their
actions and penalize them for abuses? Judges and officials should be
neutral. They should be insulated from pressure and intimidation under
the garb of gender sensitization.

Let us view marital life from this viewpoint for marriage is not a bed
of roses but a domestic battlefield. Unless husband and wife bring
immense goodwill and sacrifice to bear upon their marital fortunes,
their situation is desperate. The DVA need to be replaced by some more
benign, sensible, gender-neutral legislation that may ensure women
their rightful, honorable place at home and abroad, at the same time
not forgetting the rights of men.”
We want a better Society for our Future Generation and Stop a Father
less Child Society, which in turn not only will increase the crime in
the society , it is evident from the various study that a father less
child had been victim of child abuse at least 10 times more than a
normal child. Gender Biased LAW should immediately to be made crime
based instead of any assumption that all women never lie and all the
men born as Criminal. “MEN/WOMEN” word to be replaced by word “PERSON”
and word wife/husband to be replaced with the word “SPOUSE”.

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